I never thought my child would be the one to throw a tantrum in public. *Crickets* Well, was wrong. I’ve been there for sure. My son is almost four and we’ve moved out of the throwing tantrums phase of “toddlerhood”. I think it’s safe to call it and say “that’s a wrap!” so I’ll cross my fingers and share a few tips that have for us.
I want to spotlight that tantrums have nothing to do with a child’s manners or whether he/she is a “good” kid. No one is safe from tantrums. Sure, some tantrums happen more often or are more intense than others but if you’re a mom than you’ve experienced at least one tantrum even if it was just at home.
What about the public ones? Whoa! Those can be tough but you shouldn’t feel alone much less ashamed of yourself or little one.
How do we survive a toddler tantrum in public?
PREPARATION
Before heading out make sure that you have all of the essentials in your bag…plus more. That’s right. Bring backup in case you’re out for longer than you anticipated. Things like water, snacks, and small toys may usually do it but go with whatever you know your little one will want or need.
TIME
The time you choose to run an errand plays a big role in the possibility of a public tantrum. Sometimes the timing is just out of your hands and you have to take whatever appointment slot is available. I’ve been there and done that. Sometimes we have to take that risk. To play it safe, choose times that don’t interrupt your toddlers eating or sleeping schedule. So either before or after meals and nap would be best.
BREATHE
Okay, we prepped and chose a good time but here comes the tantrum. What do we do? B R E A T H E. Your toddler is feeling all sorts of emotions and considering that they are little human beings trying to figure it out themselves it may be challenging for them to express those feelings. You are the adult and you can take control of your mind and get a hold of your emotions. Breathe in and out and ask your child to do the same. Even if they don’t continue to breathe. Breathing excerises are beneficial to our minds and heart especially during a moment of panic.
FOCUS & FORGET ABOUT BEING JUDGED
People may stare. People will probably judge. Every now and then you may come across another mom that “gets” it and gives you a look or shares a smile to encourage you. BE THAT MOM when the tantrum is happening to someone else’s child. Don’t worry about those that look down on you and try to make you feel as though you’re failing. Know that you’re a good mom and your little one is a good child…tantrums and all. It’s common and natural.
MOVE OVER
If it makes you feel more comfortable move towards a different area of the location you’re in. Maybe it’s the bathroom or a less busy area of the store. Wherever you feel most comfortable. You can even step outside for fresh air or hang out in the car for a bit. If you think it’s best to just leave then that’s okay too.
HUG IT OUT
The (only) good thing about toddler tantrums is that it’s temporary. Remember, this too shall pass! It really will. It may feel like a storm in the moment but after the storm comes the calm. Talk it out with your little one afterwards. Hug it out. Outings will get better and better with time and you’ll eventually see that it won’t even be an issue anymore. Be patient. Show patience. It’s okay to be gentle while still being firm to correct improper behavior.
To all the mothers out there trying to figure out if it’s even worth going out with your little ones in fear that they’ll throw a tantrum…maybe they will or maybe they won’t. Sometimes it comes out of the blue but if there’s something we should continue to do is keep trying. Hang in there mamas…you got this!
