T-I-M-E: Simple Steps to let Children Know You Love Them


When it comes to letting children know you love them, you can never go wrong with showing it through action. The more specific expressions you do, the better. Concrete examples help children understand what the experience is all about.

Author and speaker Zig Ziglar once said that “Children spell ‘love’ T-I-M-E.” There’s no question that time is of the essence. Spending quality time with children can help develop trust. But what exactly do you do with that time?

Here are four simple ways that you can ensure your children know how much they mean to you.

T- Tell them what they are doing right.


Your children are a work in progress. Every day, they are trying to make sense of the world around them. As part of your quality time together, allow them to hear compliments from you. Recognize them for their contribution to the family, to their school, and their friends. The more they hear about what they are doing right, the more likely they will feel motivated to keep going. More importantly, they will know that you are interested in who they are.

I- Involve them in decision-making processes that affect them.
As your children grow, they will begin to form their own ideas. Welcome those ideas. Embrace their suggestions. Don’t be afraid that this method will undermine your authority as a parent. You are giving them a safe space to talk about how they feel.

M- Make amends as often as possible.
Be willing to start fresh. Give your children a chance to improve. Remember that they will make mistakes. But that should not be a reason for you to disconnect, no matter what the circumstances are. You will not always agree on everything but all things can be forgiven. This will lead to a stronger bond.

E- Engage in meaningful conversations. The word “engage” in this case can be empowering. It means that your children have your full attention. Not only that, as much as you are listening you are also discussing with them. You provide your feedback when asked. In return, they are open to your questions. Once in a while, let them choose the topic of conversation. Learn about the things that are relevant to them and share your interests as well.

These are practical tools you can begin to apply in your own homes today! When you take action, the time you spend with your children will never go unnoticed. Quite the opposite, they will treasure these memories. More importantly, this will be a great reminder of what love can bring into their lives.

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Joy Acaso
Although Joy Acaso was born in the Philippines, she has made South Florida her home for the last 25 years. Joy appreciates the life that she and her husband are building here together with their children, a 13 year old daughter and a 7 year old son. She is fascinated by the diverse cultures that surround her everyday. In her practice as a Family Therapist and Anxiety Support Coach, she values the integrity and uniqueness of every family and individual she meets. Joy tries her best to put awe and curiosity at the forefront because she knows that “one-size-fits-all” can never bring healing. She has made it her mission to spread awareness in utilizing therapy as a means of helping families bond closer and make their mental health their priority. In her free time, you'll find her out on coffee dates or hosting intimate dinners with friends.


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